Et essay om eksistentiel krise og kærlighedens kraft i mødet med demens – en søsters oplevelser: – a sister's experiences

Janne Brammer Damsgaard; Monica Evelyn Kvande; Charlotte Delmar; Jette Lauritzen

doi:10.7557/14.7610

Authors

Janne Brammer Damsgaard Aarhus University https://orcid.org/0000-0003-1238-2344
Monica Evelyn Kvande Lovisenberg diakonale høgskole https://orcid.org/0000-0003-4384-4695
Charlotte Delmar Aarhus University https://orcid.org/0000-0001-9455-4511
Jette Lauritzen VIA University College https://orcid.org/0000-0002-6542-5056

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.7557/14.7610

Keywords:

dementia, care, brother and sister, existential crisis, love, ethics

Abstract

The essay sheds light on existential crisis and love within a family affected by dementia, viewed from a sister's perspective. Through examples, it highlights family dynamics such as powerlessness, disappointment, and grief. These relational and psychological dynamics occur «beside» the person with dementia and are identity-altering, potentially influencing roles and values within the family. The essay incorporates reflections on love and vulnerability from theologian and philosopher Knud Ejler Løgstrup and nurse and philosopher Kari Martinsen. It points out how these phenomena are fundamental prerequisites for people to relate to one another. Such insights can serve as a driving force for existential serenity in a world filled with uncertainty and chaos for those close to people with dementia. By balancing perception and understanding and focusing on the ethical demand, the essay suggests that one can find spiritual guidance and strength to navigate challenging times.

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Author Biographies

Janne Brammer Damsgaard, Aarhus University

Department of Public Health, Nursing, PhD, MSc, RN, external lecturer

Monica Evelyn Kvande, Lovisenberg diakonale høgskole

PhD, MSc, RN, associate professor

Charlotte Delmar, Aarhus University

Health, Department of Public Health, Nursing, PhD, MSc, RN, professor, FAAN

Jette Lauritzen, VIA University College

PhD, MSc, MScHA, CRNA, RN, senior lecturer

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